Life, Relationship, Heart Clinic

  Have you ever been in a situation that felt so overwhelming, where you kept listening to motivational quotes but nothing seemed to change? The truth about life is that reality doesn’t respect motivational quotes. You can read the most powerful words every morning, save them on your phone, and repeat them out loud, yet life will still show up with bills, delays, rejections, and uncertainties. Quotes don’t magically fix situations, they don’t cancel exhaustion, neither do they erase fear. Reality moves on its own terms, whether we feel inspired or not. People are told to “stay positive” while they’re struggling to survive. They are told to “trust the process” when the process is overwhelming and hurts badly. Yes, motivational quotes sounds good and gives a temporary ease, but they can feel empty when effort doesn’t bring results we hope for, nor change the reality people are facing. Still, this doesn’t mean motivation is useless. It just means motivation alone is not enough. What t...

Waiting is one of the hardest part of life. Waiting for a job offer; waiting for results; waiting for an approval; waiting for a breakthrough to happen; or waiting for things to finally make sense. Waiting is tough because it feels passive, uncertain, and most times, lonely. You are doing your best, putting your all into something, yet, nothing seems to be working or moving. And in those quiet moments, self doubt has a way of getting loud. What makes waiting very difficult is that time keeps moving whether we get the answers we are expecting or not. Days pass, expectations rise, and frustration builds. It’s easy to feel stuck or forgotten. But waiting, while uncomfortable, is not a wasted time, unless we allow it to be. The first step when the waiting period starts is acceptance. Accept that waiting is not a punishment but part of the process everyone on earth go through. Don’t pause your life or put your joy and self-worth on hold, as that only adds to stress and anxiety. Avoid compar...

  Every day arrives quietly, without promises. It doesn’t announce whether it will be ordinary or unforgettable. The choice to make it unforgettable or ordinary belongs to us. A single day can hold growth, courage, kindness, learning, rest, or progress, even when it feels so small. Making your days count doesn’t mean doing something grand everyday, no. It means showing up with intention and hope, even when motivation is low. It means choosing effort over excuses, presence over distraction, and purpose over the autopilot of life. It’s easy to fall into the habit of counting days. We count it down to weekends, birthdays, holidays, paydays, or "better times". We tell ourselves, "Just a few more days", as if life is something we are waiting for before we live. But the truth is, life isn’t found in the number of days we survive, it’s found in what we do with the days we are given. When we only count days, we live on a pause. We postpone joy, healing, dreams, and courage....

While growing up, our dreams were born gently. They begin to form in our minds as pictures of the future, painted with hope, belief, and endless possibilities. As children, we imagine becoming everything our hearts desire. Setting timeframe for almost everything. We were so certain of our plans, that life would be kind, and our effort will be enough. That the future is open and bright, forgiving, and full of promises. But, life has its own ways of intervening in human's plans. Life's interventions rarely arrive with sudden delays or changes, no. Instead, it comes quietly, through unanswered prayers, missed opportunities, and amongst others, responsibilities that arrived far too early. The truth is, dreams don’t usually disappear or fade away overnight, no. They slowly wear down. Bills replace visions. Survival replaces ambitions. The energy we once used to imagine a better tomorrow is now redirected toward getting through today. Dreams that once felt close begin to feel unreali...

  Have you ever experienced a moment where your effort didn’t match the outcome? May I ask what that experience taught you about life and resilience? While we were kids, we grew up believing life is a sequence of steps; Work hard, be good, follow the "set rules", and success will follow. But the truth is that reality is messier. You can do "everything right", study diligently, act kindly, make responsible choices, and still face setbacks, rejections, and disappointments. Meanwhile, someone else may do everything “wrong,” take shortcuts, ignore the "said rules", and still fall into success as if fortune guided them by the hand. That will definitely make us feel that life is unfair. But the truth is that life is not mathematics. It’s art. It is chaos wrapped in grace. It’s timing, opportunity, intuition, courage, luck and grace.  Fact check: Success is not a reward exclusively given to the deserving, and failure is not punishment for being insufficient. Some...

  Do you know how deep a stone thrown in the river will sink? No! you can’t truly see how deep it sinks. All you see is the splash… but the real impact happens out of sight. It’s the same with our words. You know what you said, but you don’t always know how deeply it affected someone, how far the hurt travelled, or how long the impact of what you said will last. Words are like eggs. Once they fall, they break. No matter how hard we try, they can never be put back exactly the same. The same goes for things we say. Once the words leave our mouths, they cannot be unsaid, reversed, or forgotten. This is why we must be mindful of what comes out of our mouth, especially in moments of anger, frustration, or stress. A single thoughtless sentence can create a damage far deeper than we intended. We've seen this play out in different ways in real life. A long friendship can begin to crumble because of a hurtful remark spoken in the heat of an argument. The same applies in families. Where pare...

There’s a popular saying that “if you work hard enough, you’ll succeed”. Hmmm, the truth about life is that it doesn’t always play out that simple. Imagine two people, one born into a family that can afford the best schools, best of everything and connections, and the other one who grows up in a small town with limited or no resources. Both may work hard, but the one with more opportunities often has an easier path to success. It’s not because the second person is lazy or less capable, it’s just that life didn’t give them the same starting point. Sometimes, success comes from being at the right place at the right time. A person might get a great job because they met the right person or had access to information others did not. Meanwhile, another equally hardworking person might be overlooked, simply because they did not have those same chances (Nepo and Lapo kids). Luck and opportunity often walk hand in hand with effort, even if or when we don’t like to admit it. On the other hand, it...

Last night, while scrolling through Facebook, I stumbled on a post titled “Same Classroom, Different Futures” shared by my former secondary school teacher, Miss. Osewa. The moment I read it, something inside me stirred, and I couldn’t shake it off. I knew I had to share my own reflection. Thinking back, I remember there was a time when many of us began our journeys in the same place, went to the same school, wore the same uniforms, listened to the same lessons, and wrote the same exams that determined our ranks and performance. Back then, life felt so straightforward. We assumed that starting together meant we would somehow end up in similar places or we will all do great in our field. But the truth is that life has its own script for everyone, and each chapters unfolds in ways we never expected. Looking around that classroom years ago, none of us could have predicted how life would shape us. Hmmm, no one could tell who would rise financially, who would struggle, who would battle silen...

  As humans, we’ve all been hurt by someone’s words or actions. Like a rude comment, a cold attitude, or an unfair judgment. The fact is that our first instinct will be to get angry or take it personally. But as we grow emotionally, we begin to see things differently. We start to understand that most people don’t act out of hatred, they act out of pain. Emotional intelligence teaches us to look beyond behavior and see the story behind it. To recognize that sometimes, the person in front of us might not be as cruel as we thought, but they are just wounded. And when we understand that, everything changes. When you become emotionally smart, you start seeing people differently. You stop hating or getting angry at people easily because you understand why they act the way they do. Many times, when people hurt you or behave badly, it’s not really about you. It’s about the pain they carry inside. You might see an adult, but deep down, they’re a wounded child who never healed from their pas...