The Art Of Moving Forward Without Guarantees

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Have you ever experienced a moment where your effort didn’t match the outcome? May I ask what that experience taught you about life and resilience?

While we were kids, we grew up believing life is a sequence of steps; Work hard, be good, follow the "set rules", and success will follow. But the truth is that reality is messier.


You can do "everything right", study diligently, act kindly, make responsible choices, and still face setbacks, rejections, and disappointments. Meanwhile, someone else may do everything “wrong,” take shortcuts, ignore the "said rules", and still fall into success as if fortune guided them by the hand.


That will definitely make us feel that life is unfair. But the truth is that life is not mathematics. It’s art. It is chaos wrapped in grace. It’s timing, opportunity, intuition, courage, luck and grace. 

Fact check: Success is not a reward exclusively given to the deserving, and failure is not punishment for being insufficient. Sometimes, things just happen outside our control.


The real measure of a person is not whether success comes to them easily. But in how they choose to keep going when it doesn’t. When life refuses to match our efforts, we are presented with different alternatives.


Do we keep moving forward or give up?

If you give up, that's the end. Which means you failed yourself. If you choose to keep moving forward no matter the circumstances, the persistence of showing up becomes its own kind of magic. Opportunities eventually show up.


There may not be a universal instructional manual to life, but there is wisdom in the journey of life 

Every experiences, every disappointments, every twist, shapes us into someone stronger, wiser, and more prepared for the success that will eventually come in its own time.


Your story is not behind schedule.

Your progress is not invisible.

And your effort is never wasted.


Keep going.

The surprises life has in store may turn out to be the best chapters of your story.

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