Judge by Experience, Not by Gossip

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Life is full of opinions. Friends warn us about certain people, coworkers share stories about colleagues, and social media spreads rumors in seconds. But note that everyone is more than what other people say about them. It is easy to form impressions based on the opinions of others. Colleagues, friends, relatives, neighbors or social circles may share negative experiences or warnings about people, but I want you to know that there is always more to a person than what other people say about them.


Relying only on hearsay can close doors to valuable relationships and opportunities that could benefit you personally or professionally. An example is my real life experience with a family friend who close relatives and neighbors marked as “too proud and not willing to help". But when I decided to meet him in person to try my luck about needing a job, I met a warm, generous person who after few weeks, helped me secure a job opportunity I desperately needed. That experience taught me a lasting truth that your friend’s enemy is not automatically your enemy. Someone who is disliked by others may turn out to be your greatest supporter or helper on the long run. I'm sure everyone have different experiences about something related to this.


Note that just because your friend doesn’t like someone, doesn’t mean you have to dislike them too. People have misunderstanding base on reasons best known to them, and those reasons have nothing to do with you. The person your friend has a problem with might actually be kind, helpful, or even someone who could open doors for you. If you stay neutral and get to know people yourself, you can decide who they really are instead of carrying someone else’s grudge.


Choosing to know people for yourself doesn’t mean ignoring red flags or real harm, it simply means giving people a fair chance to show you who they are. Your own experience with them, not someone else’s. People may have their reasons for disliking someone, but their conflicts are not yours to inherit. In a world where gossip spreads faster than facts, the right thing to do is to meet people with an open mind. Let your eyes, heart, and experience decide who belongs in your life. Choose relationships based on what you know, not what others say. Because their enemy might become your biggest ally.



Maidenwura

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