You vs. Me? No. It’s Us vs. the Problem
A healthy relationship is not a race, a contest, or a game where one person has to win. Yet, many couples unknowingly slip into patterns of competition. Like keeping mental tallies of who gives more, who earns more, or who sacrifices more. While all of this things may start out small, this mindset quietly and gradually destroy trust and connection. The truth is simple, when you commit to someone, you join forces and become one. Your partner’s success is not your failure, and your growth is not their threat. Whether it is career, or personal achievements, celebrating each other’s wins strengthens the relationship. You don’t lose anything by cheering them on. Instead you both gain a stronger bond. Competition in love often shows up in subtle ways without our knowledge. For example, maybe you start noticing who apologizes first, who contributes more financially, or who puts in more effort with chores. Over time, this “scoreboard mentality” breeds resentment. Instead of working toget...