Life, Relationship, Heart Clinic

Last night, while scrolling through Facebook, I stumbled on a post titled “Same Classroom, Different Futures” shared by my former secondary school teacher, Miss. Osewa. The moment I read it, something inside me stirred, and I couldn’t shake it off. I knew I had to share my own reflection. Thinking back, I remember there was a time when many of us began our journeys in the same place, went to the same school, wore the same uniforms, listened to the same lessons, and wrote the same exams that determined our ranks and performance. Back then, life felt so straightforward. We assumed that starting together meant we would somehow end up in similar places or we will all do great in our field. But the truth is that life has its own script for everyone, and each chapters unfolds in ways we never expected. Looking around that classroom years ago, none of us could have predicted how life would shape us. Hmmm, no one could tell who would rise financially, who would struggle, who would battle silen...

  As humans, we’ve all been hurt by someone’s words or actions. Like a rude comment, a cold attitude, or an unfair judgment. The fact is that our first instinct will be to get angry or take it personally. But as we grow emotionally, we begin to see things differently. We start to understand that most people don’t act out of hatred, they act out of pain. Emotional intelligence teaches us to look beyond behavior and see the story behind it. To recognize that sometimes, the person in front of us might not be as cruel as we thought, but they are just wounded. And when we understand that, everything changes. When you become emotionally smart, you start seeing people differently. You stop hating or getting angry at people easily because you understand why they act the way they do. Many times, when people hurt you or behave badly, it’s not really about you. It’s about the pain they carry inside. You might see an adult, but deep down, they’re a wounded child who never healed from their pas...

  A healthy relationship is not a race, a contest, or a game where one person has to win. Yet, many couples unknowingly slip into patterns of competition. Like keeping mental tallies of who gives more, who earns more, or who sacrifices more. While all of this things may start out small, this mindset quietly and gradually destroy trust and connection. The truth is simple, when you commit to someone, you join forces and become one. Your partner’s success is not your failure, and your growth is not their threat. Whether it is career, or personal achievements, celebrating each other’s wins strengthens the relationship. You don’t lose anything by cheering them on. Instead you both gain a stronger bond. Competition in love often shows up in subtle ways without our knowledge. For example, maybe you start noticing who apologizes first, who contributes more financially, or who puts in more effort with chores. Over time, this “scoreboard mentality” breeds resentment. Instead of working toget...