It’s Not You — It’s Their Wounds

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As humans, we’ve all been hurt by someone’s words or actions. Like a rude comment, a cold attitude, or an unfair judgment. The fact is that our first instinct will be to get angry or take it personally. But as we grow emotionally, we begin to see things differently.

We start to understand that most people don’t act out of hatred, they act out of pain. Emotional intelligence teaches us to look beyond behavior and see the story behind it. To recognize that sometimes, the person in front of us might not be as cruel as we thought, but they are just wounded. And when we understand that, everything changes.

When you become emotionally smart, you start seeing people differently. You stop hating or getting angry at people easily because you understand why they act the way they do.

Many times, when people hurt you or behave badly, it’s not really about you. It’s about the pain they carry inside. You might see an adult, but deep down, they’re a wounded child who never healed from their past wounds and never grew. Maybe life was hard for them, or they went through things that changed how they treat others, who knows?

This doesn’t make their bad behavior okay, but it helps you understand it. You realize that hurt people often hurt others — not because they want to, but because that’s all they know.

When you understand this, you stop taking things so personally. You don’t let their anger or coldness break your peace. You can forgive, set boundaries, and still protect your heart.

Being emotionally intelligent doesn’t mean letting people walk over you — it means seeing the truth behind their actions and choosing not to carry their pain as your own.


Maidenwura.

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