Life, Relationship, Heart Clinic

The Conditional Nature of Loyalty are relationships where commitment is based on transactional benefits, not deep connection. Which means that loyalty ends when those benefits cease. Many people believe loyalty is permanent, but in reality, most loyalty is tied to benefits. As long as you are giving, helping, or providing something of value, people will stay close. The real test comes when you can no longer offer those benefits. That is when you discover who values you for who you are, not just for what you bring to the table or give to them.  Think about the workplace. Employees often look loyal to their company, but that loyalty usually depends on pay, promotions, or benefits. The moment a better opportunity comes along, many will leave. On the other side, companies also show their loyalties as long as employees are productive. Once an employee's performance drops, the company's loyalty ends quickly. This proves that loyalty in business is often conditional, built on exchange...

We live in a world where everyone wants to share every of their wins or their milestones online. What you do not know is that there is real power in keeping your plans to yourselves. Listen, when you stay quiet about your goals, you shield yourself from hatred, jealousy, negative energy and opinions of others.  When you are ascending to the next level, not all eyes or mouths cheering you on are sincere. Some people feel threatened, while "some people like you better when you are broken, below them or on the same level as they are.” By sharing too early, you risk giving this set of people something to attack. As one powerful expression puts it: When you build in silence, they don't know what to attack. Build in silence and let your success make the noise. Moving in silence doesn’t mean you’re hiding; you are simply protecting and honoring your next-level self. Every quiet effort accumulates power; every discreet triumph builds legacy. “Working hard in silence, and letting your ...

We often view failure as the end of the road. But the truth is, failure is only a bend on the journey toward success. As humans, we are easily discouraged by setbacks, believing that these setbacks are the limits of our abilities. However, failure should not be seen as a sign to quit. Each mistake, setback, rejection or disappointment holds a valuable lesson that shapes our path and strengthens our resolve. Some of the world’s most successful individuals experienced numerous failures before achieving greatness. Thomas Edison made thousands of attempts before inventing the lightbulb, yet he famously said he didn’t fail—he simply found ways that didn’t work. This mindset highlights a powerful truth: failure is not the opposite of success, but part of the process. Every attempt brings you one step closer to your goal, provided you don’t give up. When we allow failure to defeat us, we rob ourselves off the opportunity to grow. Perseverance in the face of challenges builds character, resili...

  The journey of life is not a smooth road, nor is it a bed of roses. Life is filled with highs and lows, and trying times are an inevitable part of the journey. Be it personal loss, failure, rejection upon rejection, financial strain, emotional hardship, etc. All these experiences can feel overwhelming and endless. Making life look like the time has stopped. Yet, history and people's experiences remind us that no storm lasts forever. Just as seasons change, so do circumstances. Even the most difficult moments eventually give way to hope and renewal, often leaving behind valuable lessons and inner strength. Tough times, while painful, come with both disadvantages and hidden advantages. On one hand, they bring stress, self-doubt, and setbacks that affect our mental and physical well-being. They strain relationships and delay progress making us feel like we've hit rock bottom. On the other hand, trying times can foster resilience, clarity, and a deeper understanding of ourselves....

  Your mind is one of the most powerful tools you have. It affects how you think, feel, and react to the world around you. Just like your body needs exercise and good food to stay strong, your mind also needs care and attention.  A healthy mind helps you make better decisions, handle stress, and live a happier life. One way to take care of your mind is by managing stress. Truth is, life can be challenging, and challenges can feel overwhelming at times.  Engaging in self-care activities like taking short walks, practicing relaxation techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or keeping a journal about the positive things no matter how small can improve your emotional health.  You can also do things you know help you clear your mind like surrounding yourself with positive people and talking about your feelings without being judged with those you know truly care about you will also make a big difference in maintaining a good mental health. Protecting your mental well-b...

As the new year kicks off, take this chance to hit reset and start fresh . Set goals that really matters to you—whether it's your mental health, getting healthier, strengthening that relationship with that special someone, or finally going after a dream you've been putting off. Don’t worry about being perfect; just focus on making steady progress with each step. Every day is a new opportunity to move forward. Take care of your mental health, your mind and emotions, just like you would your face, lol. Try things that truly makes you happy, or just take a moment to breathe and reflect. Spend time with people who make you feel good and put energy into relationships that brings you true happiness . This year, aim for balance—work on your goals, but don’t forget to rest and recharge . Look for ways to give back and make a difference in the world around you. Even small acts of kindness—helping a neighbor, volunteering, or supporting the less privileged—can have a big impact. It make...

 Life is a complex journey filled with ups, downs, both positive and negative experiences, emotions, and changes. A helpful way to understand the journey of life is through three stages: The Breaking stage The Making stage The Showing stage These 3 stages reflects how we face challenges, grow as individuals, and share our stories with others to learn from. The Breaking Stage The first stage, The Breaking Stage, is about those tough moments in life when we encounter problems, face failures, or go through significant changes. These experiences can be painful and confusing, often leaving us feeling lost. However, they are essential for personal growth. During this phase, we might start questioning our beliefs, strength, who we are or if we can attain that goals we've set for ourselves. This stage is a time for reflection. Where we reflect on the past mistakes, learn from the mistakes and work on being a better person; It can also be a break down old ways of thinking to make space...

Forgiveness can be tricky, especially when it comes to the closest relationships we have. We often find it easier to forgive people we don’t know well compared to our close friends and family. This is because we expect those we love to understand us better and act accordingly. When they let us down, it hurts more, making it harder to forgive them. On the other hand, when someone we’re not close to does something wrong, we tend to take it less personally. We might think, “They don’t really know me, so it’s not a big deal.” This distance helps us let go of the hurt more easily. We can brush off their actions because we don’t have the same emotional investment in the relationship. However, it’s important to remember that everyone makes mistakes, including our loved ones. They might act out of stress or misunderstanding or whatever it is they're going through at that point in time, just like everyone. When we expect perfection from those closest to us, we set ourselves up for disappoin...

  One of the most important virtue to uphold in life is humility. It's easy to become swept up in success, to take pride in achievements, and even mock or look down at those who may be struggling or facing setbacks. However, as the saying goes, “what goes up always comes down”, and the very things we laugh at today may become our reality tomorrow. Life has a way of reminding us that no one is immune to failure or hardship. By remaining humble, we are not only protecting ourselves from the pitfall of arrogance, we are also ensure that we maintain the empathy and resilience needed to weather the unexpected twists and turns life throws at us. People who become overly confident or critical of others often forget that their present circumstances are not guaranteed to last forever. It's easy to look down on someone who hasn’t achieved the same level of success, not realizing that the same fate could befall anyone no matter how careful we are. I’ve seen many individuals who, in their ...

  Life is a journey marked by constant change, and one of the most profound truths we encounter is that nobody is guaranteed to be in our lives forever. Relationships like friendships, family ties, or romantic partnerships, can evolve or dissolve with time. This impermanence can be unsettling, but it also serves as a reminder to cherish the moments we share with one another. Understanding this reality encourages us to appreciate our connections while also preparing for the inevitable transitions that life brings.The temporary nature of relationships often stems from various factors, including personal growth, starting a family, differing priorities, amongst others. As individuals, we are constantly evolving, and sometimes this growth leads us down different paths. Examples, Siblings drifting apart as they start new family; Friends we once thought were inseparable may grow apart as their interests and lifestyles evolve. Similarly, romantic relationships can shift due to changes in v...