Life, Relationship, Heart Clinic

Life, it has a way of surprising us in ways we least expected. Sometimes those surprises are joyful, and other times they feel like the ground has been pulled from beneath our feet. Like a job suddenly lost, or a relationship ending, amongst others. These moments can leave us shaken, questioning our worth, and unsure about where or how to begin again. But note this, starting over is not just an ending, it’s an invitation to rewrite your story. The truth is, it's hard. But before you can move forward, you need to allow yourself to grieve what’s gone. Whether it’s the comfort of a steady paycheck that pay the bills, or the relationship you thought lead to marriage, loss is real. Suppressing emotions only delays healing. Cry if you need to. Journal your thoughts. Talk to a trusted friend or therapist. Naming and acknowledging the pain is the first step to releasing it. Major life changes can strip away the roles and daily routines that once defined you. You need to ask yourself some s...

Life is full of opinions. Friends warn us about certain people, coworkers share stories about colleagues, and social media spreads rumors in seconds. But note that everyone is more than what other people say about them. It is easy to form impressions based on the opinions of others. Colleagues, friends, relatives, neighbors or social circles may share negative experiences or warnings about people, but I want you to know that there is always more to a person than what other people say about them. Relying only on hearsay can close doors to valuable relationships and opportunities that could benefit you personally or professionally. An example is my real life experience with a family friend who close relatives and neighbors marked as “too proud and not willing to help". But when I decided to meet him in person to try my luck about needing a job, I met a warm, generous person who after few weeks, helped me secure a job opportunity I desperately needed. That experience taught me a last...

Having good and genuine friends is among life’s greatest gifts, but the sad truth is that not all friendships are meant to last forever. Some people come into our lives only for a short period of time, either as a blessing or as a lesson. They offer support, lessons, or companionship when we need it the most. When these types of relationships fades, it is easy to feel hurt and start wondering what went wrong.  Friendships, just like the seasons, have their own time and purpose. Some friends are with us for years, while others may walk alongside us for a short period of time. These friendships may offer happiness, support, growth, or even be an obstacle. The truth is, their value is not measured by how long they last, but by the impact they have in shaping us during that particular stage of life. It is natural to feel hurt when a friendship fades, but it is important to remember that not every relationship is meant to last forever. Many of these relationships exists to guide us thro...

The Conditional Nature of Loyalty are relationships where commitment is based on transactional benefits, not deep connection. Which means that loyalty ends when those benefits cease. Many people believe loyalty is permanent, but in reality, most loyalty is tied to benefits. As long as you are giving, helping, or providing something of value, people will stay close. The real test comes when you can no longer offer those benefits. That is when you discover who values you for who you are, not just for what you bring to the table or give to them.  Think about the workplace. Employees often look loyal to their company, but that loyalty usually depends on pay, promotions, or benefits. The moment a better opportunity comes along, many will leave. On the other side, companies also show their loyalties as long as employees are productive. Once an employee's performance drops, the company's loyalty ends quickly. This proves that loyalty in business is often conditional, built on exchange...