Life, Relationship, Heart Clinic

These days, different men share painful stories of being dumped, not because they lack love, kindness, or good character, but because they can’t meet up the expensive demands of modern relationships. Some women dismiss them as “not capable” or “not man enough” simply because they don’t buy the latest wigs, pay for designer outfits & bags, or even fund their luxury lifestyle. For men working hard to earn an honest living in this economy, this can be heartbreaking. It’s not that they don’t care, it’s that keeping up with endless material expectations can drain them financially and emotionally. Especially when they have lots of other things to do financially. Ladies, it is important to remember that looking good and living well costs a lot of money, and not every man can or should be expected to finance someone else’s dream lifestyle. If a man truly loves you, the least you can do is value his effort, his loyalty, his heart, and appreciate whatever he gives you. Support his growth ins...

Life, at times can be tough and unpredictable, but know that within you is a strength as resilient as a wildflower. Wildflowers bloom on rocky mountains, in dry fields, and in places no one ever thought they could survive. They don’t wait for perfect conditions—they rise, stretch toward the sun, and flourish despite the odds. Like a wildflower, you can bloom even when life doesn’t nurture or water you. Whether you blossom early or late, you are still a flower—beautiful and worthy of admiration. Yes, challenges, setbacks, and frustrating days will come, but remember that you did not come this far just to give up now. Hard times are only visitors, and like visitors, they will eventually leave. Even if life steps on you, you can rise again. Your season to bloom is coming. But here is the other truth. You don’t have to bloom all the time. Even wildflowers have seasons of stillness when they lie dormant, gathering energy for the next burst of growth. Life isn’t only about constant striving ...

When a lady see how happy her once upon a time suitor is in his marriage, she will be like ‘’I wish I said yes when he asked me out then… My marriage would have been a fairytale… And they lived happily ever after’’ When a man see how happily married a lady he once ditched is, he will be like ‘’I wish I took her serious and never let her go then… see how happy she is.’’ Her husband is indeed fortunate to have her But the truth is, your marriage or relationship is what you make it to be. You need to stop comparing your spouse or marriage to others. Please don’t get caught in comparison trap because you don’t know what they are going through. You can only see what they chose to show you. Note that every marriage is unique. The fact that the grass looks greener on the other side doesn’t mean you need to move to the other side. It means you have to nurture and water your own plant Truth about marriage The first year of marriage is going to be tough. You will get to see and know what you nev...

People often say that the key to a happy marriage is marrying your best friend. While it’s a beautiful idea, real life is far more layered. Yes, friendship is valuable, but it is not the only, neither is it the ultimate ingredient that makes a marriage last. Your best friend might know your deepest secrets and accept you as you are, but that doesn’t automatically create romantic spark or long-term compatibility. Marriage needs attraction, emotional intimacy, and shared goals. Two people can be amazing friends but struggle with the day-to-day realities of marriage, such as finances, family expectations, or conflict resolution. Some of the strongest marriages didn’t start as close friendships. Many couples begin as acquaintances, coworkers, or even strangers and build friendship after love and commitment have taken root. Friendship can grow over time, shaped by shared experiences, respect, and the effort you put into understanding each other. Instead of focusing on marrying your best...

I was sitting on the 13th floor alone Brooding about life, When a spider caught my attention. It climbed to the 13th floor and kept climbing even with the storm out there. It climbed back up every time it fell. Why does the spider climb so high? Striving to get to the top? Why is it is going that high? It probably thinks it can get a better catch up there; Or maybe it believes it can just keep going and going till it attain its goal. Well, that’s what I chose to believe. The spider did not stop till it got to the final floor. Like the spider that keeps climbing, keep moving toward your goals. But also know when to stop and enjoy what you have achieved. Hard work is good, but don’t let the chase for more take away your peace. Face challenges with courage, never give up, but remember that life isn’t only about how far you climb, it’s also about finding balance and happiness along the way. Maiden Wura

Don’t be too quick to make decisions, ‘’GIVE IT TIME’’.  When someone approaches you to tell you ‘’I can’t live without you, I love you and I can put up with your flaws’’, before you commit your heart to such person, PLEASE GIVE IT TIME because time test love and proves it. When you meet someone today and you feel like marrying the person the next day, take a pause and GIVE IT TIME When you visit your uncles, aunts or friends during vacation, and you were treated like royalty, don’t be carried away by the way you are being served and start thinking about moving to their house,  GIVE IT TIME When someone joins your fellowship and is active in all groups/departments, please don’t rush into making him a leader, GIVE IT TIME When you enter a new environment and everybody worships the ground you step on, please don’t be carried away, but GIVE IT TIME When someone comes with a business idea with unbelievable returns of profits, before you commit your resources to it,...

In a world where wealth often defines status, rich people often have a way of making those who don’t have much feel embarrassed about being poor. Because of this, some people end up spending money they don't have just to put on a short show of looking rich. They buy things they can’t really afford, not because they need them, but because they want to look like they belong in the world of the wealthy, even if it’s only for a moment. A lot of people want the good things they see others enjoying, and they don’t really care how they get them. There are right ways to get those things and there are other ways (the bad ones). But many people only focus on the shortcut, the bad way. They call it “doing what you have to do to survive,” but they don’t realize that this path causes more harm than good. It might look easy at first, but in the end, it destroys more than it builds. People tend to judge others that are not taking this "short cuts", because they refuse to do what ever...

There are few pains as heavy as loving someone who does not love you in return. It feels like walking through fire while standing perfectly still. A quiet torment that burns from the inside out. You give your heart, your thoughts, and your hopes to a person who cannot meet you there, and no matter how much you wish it were different, there is nothing you can do to force love into existence. When you care deeply for someone, every attempt to move on feels like a battle. The more you try to forget them, the more they are present. Memories replay in your mind like a song stuck on repeat, and moments that once brought joy now leave a dull ache. It sometimes feel as though time itself has stopped, your chest tightens, your breath shortens, and courage deserts you every time you think of speaking your heart. The simple words I love you feel heavier than stone, impossible to set free. The truth is, a lot of people has experienced this silent struggle. Hiding feelings you cannot confess,...

Life, it is a mixture of light and shadow, joy and sorrow. Happiness often arrives like a welcomed guest, filling our hearts with warmth and laughter. But sadness does not always knock before entering. It comes uninvited, sometimes in the quiet of an ordinary day. Even in our brightest moments, a few tears may still fall. But that is part of being human. When life feels heavy and the trials of life seems endless, it is easy to believe that such darkness will last forever. Yet, above every storm, there is always a bright blue sky waiting to be seen. The clouds may hide it for a while, but they cannot erase it. Remembering this truth gives us strength to keep going when everything inside us wants to give up. Sometimes, the person carrying pain is not you but someone close to you. A friend’s eyes may silently reveal sadness even when their words do not. In those moments, your smile and gentle assurance can become a lifeline. A simple act of kindness, a warm word, or even your presenc...