Marriage Takes More Than Friendship

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People often say that the key to a happy marriage is marrying your best friend. While it’s a beautiful idea, real life is far more layered. Yes, friendship is valuable, but it is not the only, neither is it the ultimate ingredient that makes a marriage last.


Your best friend might know your deepest secrets and accept you as you are, but that doesn’t automatically create romantic spark or long-term compatibility. Marriage needs attraction, emotional intimacy, and shared goals. Two people can be amazing friends but struggle with the day-to-day realities of marriage, such as finances, family expectations, or conflict resolution.


Some of the strongest marriages didn’t start as close friendships. Many couples begin as acquaintances, coworkers, or even strangers and build friendship after love and commitment have taken root. Friendship can grow over time, shaped by shared experiences, respect, and the effort you put into understanding each other.


Instead of focusing on marrying your best friend, focus on marrying someone you can respect, trust, and build with. Qualities like kindness, patience, honesty, and shared values matter more than labels. A marriage thrives not because you were friends first, but because you choose each day to love, forgive, and support one another.


The real secret to a lasting marriage isn’t about friendship first, it’s about effort. Love grows when two people are willing to communicate, compromise, and nurture each other through the highs and lows of life. Friendship is a gift, but commitment and consistent care are what truly hold a marriage together.


Maiden Wura

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  1. UnknownJuly 16, 2020 at 8:20 AM

    The best friend thing will happen if both genders wants it to. We can only know what people wants us to know. So we must be open if we want our partner to also be our best friend. Nice write up

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