Life, Relationship, Heart Clinic

When someone or people hurts us, it's natural to feel angry, betrayed, or at most, vengeful. We might be tempted to lash out and hurt them back, thinking it will make us feel better or bring some sense of justice. But note, hurting someone in return rarely brings the healing or peace we seek. In fact, it often perpetuates a cycle of pain and resentment. Hurting someone back may provide temporary relief or a fleeting sense of satisfaction , but it only deepens the wounds for both parties involved. It fuels negativity and perpetuates a cycle of hurt and retaliation, leading to further damage to relationships and emotional well-being. True healing comes from within, not from seeking revenge or inflicting pain on others. It requires forgiveness, and letting go of resentment. It's about acknowledging our own pain and finding healthy ways to heal, rather than projecting our pains onto others. Choosing not to hurt someone back doesn't mean we condone their actions or let them off ...

  Failure is not your enemy, your fears are. You must face your fear to protect the people you love. Failure is an inevitable part of life, and it is essential to recognize that it does not define your worth or capabilities. Often, our fears become the real obstacles that hold us back from reaching our full potential. They can be limiting beliefs and negative thoughts that keep us from taking risks and pursuing our goals. However, it's crucial to understand that confronting these fears head-on is the key to personal growth and success. By facing our fears, we not only develop resilience and courage, but we also gain a deeper understanding of ourselves . This self-awareness can lead to personal transformation and the ability to overcome future challenges more effectively. When we talk about protecting the people we love, it goes beyond physical safety. Facing our fears allows us to be emotionally available and supportive for our loved ones. By embracing vulnerability and openness, ...

  Prioritizing self-care means actively taking care of your physical , mental , and emotional well-being . It involves making intentional choices and actions that promote your overall health and happiness.  Some key aspects Physical self-care : Taking care of your body is essential. This includes getting regular exercise, eating nutritious meals, getting enough sleep, and attending to your physical health needs. Emotional self-care : This involved engaging in activities that brings you joy and fulfillment. Taking time to engage in hobbies, practice mindfulness or meditation.  Mental self-care : Caring for your mental well-being is vital. This can include engaging in activities that stimulate your mind, such as reading, learning new skills, or solving puzzles. Setting boundaries with technology and taking breaks from screens can also be beneficial.  Social self-care : Building and maintaining healthy relationships is an important aspect of self-care. Surrounding your...

  Here are some tips for couples to work on their differences: 1. Communicate openly and honestly: It's important to be open and honest with your partner about your thoughts and feelings, even if they are different from each other's. Communication is key to understanding and resolving differences. 2. Practice active listening: When your partner is speaking, make an effort to really listen to what they are saying. Try to understand their perspective and perspective, even if you don't agree with it. 3. Seek compromise: It's unlikely that you will always see eye to eye with your partner on every issue. Try to find a compromise that works for both of you. 4. Respect each other's boundaries: It's important to respect each other's boundaries and needs. If one person needs space or time to themselves, it's important to give them that space and respect their boundaries. 5. Seek outside help if needed: If you are having difficulty resolving your differences, it m...

  Willingness to try again in a relationship is an important quality that helps to keep the bond between two people strong and healthy. When challenges and conflicts arises, it can be easy to give up and throw in the towel. However, a willingness to try again shows a dedication to the relationship and a belief in its value. It demonstrates that both partners are willing to work through difficulties and find ways to communicate and resolve conflicts in a healthy and constructive manner. This can help to rebuild trust and strengthen the bond between partners, and ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and long-lasting relationship. Maidenwura

  I heard getting married is one of the easiest thing to do in our society today. Gone are those days when the parents of the intending couples do a lot of findings about the family their child is marrying into before approving their marriage. The aim of this investigation is to make sure their child(ren)  marry into a good family, in terms of health, character, fame, generational curse, among others.  Parents are simply playing that role to make sure their children did not marry into the wrong family. But today's singles have totally different reasons for choosing their spouse When we think about two people getting married, we'd like to think that their decision is based on true love. That they have found the person they want to grow old with, who treats them the way they deserve and who is committed into a future together. Unfortunately, in the real world many of us get married for other reasons than ones above. Though to them, they are great reasons.  Some o...

  Most couples often give up easily on their marriage due to one reason or the other, not knowing that the faults of their misunderstanding lies between them. Most times, when a marriage is in trouble, most couples see their marriage as a mistake, rather than seeing the mistakes they are making in their marriage as the challenge they should work on and overcome together.  At a point, they begin to regret getting married to their partner. Some start thinking of getting new partners; Imagining marrying their ex or fantasizing a marrriage without issues. What they don't know is that there is no perfect marriage out there. Some work towards perfecting their marriages by accepting their partner's flaws and working on the betterment of their marriage, while most give up on theirs by issuing divorce, and later getting married to someone else. Sooner or later, they often find themselves  wishing that they had remained with their first spouse because they found greater trouble ...

All ladies are beautiful, they just need rebranding I heard lots of stories from ladies on how they were dumped, just because they are not looking good enough for show offs, (i.e they don't wear latest dress/wears or latest wigs/weaves). This gives me a heart wrenching pain whenever the thought of how physical beauty is the judge of how most men treat their women. They termed it - "she is not presentable"  To the men out there Most ladies that don't wear the latest dress or latest weaves are not happy with the way they look. And I'm telling you it took them the last ounce of self esteem to walk around not wearing the latest wears or weaves. The least you can do for such lady as a man is make her feel beautiful because looking good is very expensive and not all ladies can afford it. Which is why most result to "other ways" to look good.  But then, men don't see it that way. They want an independent lady who is good for show offs and not minding what ...

Anything is possible when u choose to make it possible You should be like Wildflowers that grow in a mountain or in a field and manage to bloom even when they are not nurtured or watered.  Wildflower is still a flower and would be cherished when seen.  Whether you bloom early or late, you are still a flower.  You will have many days of frustration in your life; however, don't ever think of giving up, because you did not come this far just to come this far. Remember that all turbulent time is a visitor and like visitors, they will pass by.  Even if you get stepped on along the way, LIKE A WILDFLOWER, YOU WILL BLOOM AGAIN Wildflowers survive amongst all types of weeds, you will survive too.  Wildflowers bloom anywhere they find themselves, you will bloom too.  No matter how far or how long it seems it is taking, don't give up because your time to bloom is almost here.  You are a WILDFLOWER, you will survive it all. Don't give up!  - Maiden wura.

When a lady see how happy her once upon a time suitor is in his marriage, she will be like ‘’I wish I said yes when he asked me out then… My marriage would have been a fairytale… And they lived happily ever after’’ When a man see how happily married a lady he once ditched is, he will be like ‘’I wish I took her serious and never let her go then… see how happy she is.’’ Her husband is indeed fortunate to have her But the truth is, your marriage or relationship is what you make it to be. You need to stop comparing your spouse or marriage to others. Please don’t get caught in comparison trap because you don’t know what they are going through. You can only see what they chose to show you. Note: every marriage is unique. The fact that the grass looks greener on the other side doesn’t mean you need to move to the other side. It means you have to nurture and water your own plant Truth about marriage The first year of marriage is going to be tough. You will get to see and know what you never s...