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Better late than never

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In a world where we often rush for quick success, it's important to realize that everyone's journey is different. Just because it takes you longer to achieve something doesn't mean you have failed in your quest. Success is about facing challenges and staying determined, no matter how much time it takes. Each person's path is laden with distinct challenges and opportunities, and comparing one's timeline to others can undermine the value of personal growth and perseverance. Sometimes, you worry about starting something new because you think you're too late. But the truth of the matter is that, deciding to make a try is a success in itself. It doesn't matter when you start; what matters is that you are willing to learn and grow along the way. Success is not defined by the speed of accomplishment but rather by the determination to overcome obstacles and learn from experiences.  So, if you are working towards a goal and it's taking more time than you thought,...

Fate is a force shaping destinies with profound mystery.

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Fate is a mysterious force that plays a significant role in our lives. It's like an invisible guide, leading us through paths we often don't anticipate. Imagine life as a journey, and fate as the map that influences the twists and turns we encounter along the way. We may not always recognize its presence, but it subtly influences the course of our lives. This mysterious force we call fate works in intricate ways. It's as if there's a plan, a grand design that unfolds gradually. We find ourselves facing unexpected situations, meeting people we never imagined, and experiencing events that shape who we are. Fate brings a sense of order to the chaos of life, connecting dots that, at first glance, might seem unrelated. As fate weaves its influence, it leaves an indelible mark on our destinies. It's the sculptor shaping the contours of our lives with a profound sense of mystery. Some moments might feel destined, as if they were meant to be. Others may seem like chance ...

Hurting people back won't heal you

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When someone or people hurts us, it's natural to feel angry, betrayed, or at most, vengeful. We might be tempted to lash out and hurt them back, thinking it will make us feel better or bring some sense of justice. But note, hurting someone in return rarely brings the healing or peace we seek. In fact, it often perpetuates a cycle of pain and resentment. Hurting someone back may provide temporary relief or a fleeting sense of satisfaction , but it only deepens the wounds for both parties involved. It fuels negativity and perpetuates a cycle of hurt and retaliation, leading to further damage to relationships and emotional well-being. True healing comes from within, not from seeking revenge or inflicting pain on others. It requires forgiveness, and letting go of resentment. It's about acknowledging our own pain and finding healthy ways to heal, rather than projecting our pains onto others. Choosing not to hurt someone back doesn't mean we condone their actions or let them off ...

Conquering Fear, Protecting Love.

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  Failure is not your enemy, your fears are. You must face your fear to protect the people you love. Failure is an inevitable part of life, and it is essential to recognize that it does not define your worth or capabilities. Often, our fears become the real obstacles that hold us back from reaching our full potential. They can be limiting beliefs and negative thoughts that keep us from taking risks and pursuing our goals. However, it's crucial to understand that confronting these fears head-on is the key to personal growth and success. By facing our fears, we not only develop resilience and courage, but we also gain a deeper understanding of ourselves . This self-awareness can lead to personal transformation and the ability to overcome future challenges more effectively. When we talk about protecting the people we love, it goes beyond physical safety. Facing our fears allows us to be emotionally available and supportive for our loved ones. By embracing vulnerability and openness, ...

Self-care is not selfish

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  Prioritizing self-care means actively taking care of your physical , mental , and emotional well-being . It involves making intentional choices and actions that promote your overall health and happiness.  Some key aspects Physical self-care : Taking care of your body is essential. This includes getting regular exercise, eating nutritious meals, getting enough sleep, and attending to your physical health needs. Emotional self-care : This involved engaging in activities that brings you joy and fulfillment. Taking time to engage in hobbies, practice mindfulness or meditation.  Mental self-care : Caring for your mental well-being is vital. This can include engaging in activities that stimulate your mind, such as reading, learning new skills, or solving puzzles. Setting boundaries with technology and taking breaks from screens can also be beneficial.  Social self-care : Building and maintaining healthy relationships is an important aspect of self-care. Surrounding your...

Tips For Resolving Differences

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  Here are some tips for couples to work on their differences: 1. Communicate openly and honestly: It's important to be open and honest with your partner about your thoughts and feelings, even if they are different from each other's. Communication is key to understanding and resolving differences. 2. Practice active listening: When your partner is speaking, make an effort to really listen to what they are saying. Try to understand their perspective and perspective, even if you don't agree with it. 3. Seek compromise: It's unlikely that you will always see eye to eye with your partner on every issue. Try to find a compromise that works for both of you. 4. Respect each other's boundaries: It's important to respect each other's boundaries and needs. If one person needs space or time to themselves, it's important to give them that space and respect their boundaries. 5. Seek outside help if needed: If you are having difficulty resolving your differences, it m...

Willingness to try again

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  Willingness to try again in a relationship is an important quality that helps to keep the bond between two people strong and healthy. When challenges and conflicts arises, it can be easy to give up and throw in the towel. However, a willingness to try again shows a dedication to the relationship and a belief in its value. It demonstrates that both partners are willing to work through difficulties and find ways to communicate and resolve conflicts in a healthy and constructive manner. This can help to rebuild trust and strengthen the bond between partners, and ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and long-lasting relationship. Maidenwura

Don't marry for them, marry for you!

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  I heard getting married is one of the easiest thing to do in our society today. Gone are those days when the parents of the intending couples do a lot of findings about the family their child is marrying into before approving their marriage. The aim of this investigation is to make sure their child(ren)  marry into a good family, in terms of health, character, fame, generational curse, among others.  Parents are simply playing that role to make sure their children did not marry into the wrong family. But today's singles have totally different reasons for choosing their spouse When we think about two people getting married, we'd like to think that their decision is based on true love. That they have found the person they want to grow old with, who treats them the way they deserve and who is committed into a future together. Unfortunately, in the real world many of us get married for other reasons than ones above. Though to them, they are great reasons.  Some o...

Your marriage is as sweet as you make it

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  Most couples often give up easily on their marriage due to one reason or the other, not knowing that the faults of their misunderstanding lies between them. Most times, when a marriage is in trouble, most couples see their marriage as a mistake, rather than seeing the mistakes they are making in their marriage as the challenge they should work on and overcome together.  At a point, they begin to regret getting married to their partner. Some start thinking of getting new partners; Imagining marrying their ex or fantasizing a marrriage without issues. What they don't know is that there is no perfect marriage out there. Some work towards perfecting their marriages by accepting their partner's flaws and working on the betterment of their marriage, while most give up on theirs by issuing divorce, and later getting married to someone else. Sooner or later, they often find themselves  wishing that they had remained with their first spouse because they found greater trouble ...

Rebrand your lady, she is beautiful

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All ladies are beautiful, they just need rebranding I heard lots of stories from ladies on how they were dumped, just because they are not looking good enough for show offs, (i.e they don't wear latest dress/wears or latest wigs/weaves). This gives me a heart wrenching pain whenever the thought of how physical beauty is the judge of how most men treat their women. They termed it - "she is not presentable"  To the men out there Most ladies that don't wear the latest dress or latest weaves are not happy with the way they look. And I'm telling you it took them the last ounce of self esteem to walk around not wearing the latest wears or weaves. The least you can do for such lady as a man is make her feel beautiful because looking good is very expensive and not all ladies can afford it. Which is why most result to "other ways" to look good.  But then, men don't see it that way. They want an independent lady who is good for show offs and not minding what ...