Life, Relationship, Heart Clinic

Life, it has a way of surprising us in ways we least expected. Sometimes those surprises are joyful, and other times they feel like the ground has been pulled from beneath our feet. Like a job suddenly lost, or a relationship ending, amongst others. These moments can leave us shaken, questioning our worth, and unsure about where or how to begin again. But note this, starting over is not just an ending, it’s an invitation to rewrite your story. The truth is, it's hard. But before you can move forward, you need to allow yourself to grieve what’s gone. Whether it’s the comfort of a steady paycheck that pay the bills, or the relationship you thought lead to marriage, loss is real. Suppressing emotions only delays healing. Cry if you need to. Journal your thoughts. Talk to a trusted friend or therapist. Naming and acknowledging the pain is the first step to releasing it. Major life changes can strip away the roles and daily routines that once defined you. You need to ask yourself some s...

Life is full of opinions. Friends warn us about certain people, coworkers share stories about colleagues, and social media spreads rumors in seconds. But note that everyone is more than what other people say about them. It is easy to form impressions based on the opinions of others. Colleagues, friends, relatives, neighbors or social circles may share negative experiences or warnings about people, but I want you to know that there is always more to a person than what other people say about them. Relying only on hearsay can close doors to valuable relationships and opportunities that could benefit you personally or professionally. An example is my real life experience with a family friend who close relatives and neighbors marked as “too proud and not willing to help". But when I decided to meet him in person to try my luck about needing a job, I met a warm, generous person who after few weeks, helped me secure a job opportunity I desperately needed. That experience taught me a last...

Having good and genuine friends is among life’s greatest gifts, but the sad truth is that not all friendships are meant to last forever. Some people come into our lives only for a short period of time, either as a blessing or as a lesson. They offer support, lessons, or companionship when we need it the most. When these types of relationships fades, it is easy to feel hurt and start wondering what went wrong.  Friendships, just like the seasons, have their own time and purpose. Some friends are with us for years, while others may walk alongside us for a short period of time. These friendships may offer happiness, support, growth, or even be an obstacle. The truth is, their value is not measured by how long they last, but by the impact they have in shaping us during that particular stage of life. It is natural to feel hurt when a friendship fades, but it is important to remember that not every relationship is meant to last forever. Many of these relationships exists to guide us thro...

The Conditional Nature of Loyalty are relationships where commitment is based on transactional benefits, not deep connection. Which means that loyalty ends when those benefits cease. Many people believe loyalty is permanent, but in reality, most loyalty is tied to benefits. As long as you are giving, helping, or providing something of value, people will stay close. The real test comes when you can no longer offer those benefits. That is when you discover who values you for who you are, not just for what you bring to the table or give to them.  Think about the workplace. Employees often look loyal to their company, but that loyalty usually depends on pay, promotions, or benefits. The moment a better opportunity comes along, many will leave. On the other side, companies also show their loyalties as long as employees are productive. Once an employee's performance drops, the company's loyalty ends quickly. This proves that loyalty in business is often conditional, built on exchange...

We live in a world where everyone wants to share every of their wins or their milestones online. What you do not know is that there is real power in keeping your plans to yourselves. Listen, when you stay quiet about your goals, you shield yourself from hatred, jealousy, negative energy and opinions of others.  When you are ascending to the next level, not all eyes or mouths cheering you on are sincere. Some people feel threatened, while "some people like you better when you are broken, below them or on the same level as they are.” By sharing too early, you risk giving this set of people something to attack. As one powerful expression puts it: When you build in silence, they don't know what to attack. Build in silence and let your success make the noise. Moving in silence doesn’t mean you’re hiding; you are simply protecting and honoring your next-level self. Every quiet effort accumulates power; every discreet triumph builds legacy. “Working hard in silence, and letting your ...

We often view failure as the end of the road. But the truth is, failure is only a bend on the journey toward success. As humans, we are easily discouraged by setbacks, believing that these setbacks are the limits of our abilities. However, failure should not be seen as a sign to quit. Each mistake, setback, rejection or disappointment holds a valuable lesson that shapes our path and strengthens our resolve. Some of the world’s most successful individuals experienced numerous failures before achieving greatness. Thomas Edison made thousands of attempts before inventing the lightbulb, yet he famously said he didn’t fail—he simply found ways that didn’t work. This mindset highlights a powerful truth: failure is not the opposite of success, but part of the process. Every attempt brings you one step closer to your goal, provided you don’t give up. When we allow failure to defeat us, we rob ourselves off the opportunity to grow. Perseverance in the face of challenges builds character, resili...

  The journey of life is not a smooth road, nor is it a bed of roses. Life is filled with highs and lows, and trying times are an inevitable part of the journey. Be it personal loss, failure, rejection upon rejection, financial strain, emotional hardship, etc. All these experiences can feel overwhelming and endless. Making life look like the time has stopped. Yet, history and people's experiences remind us that no storm lasts forever. Just as seasons change, so do circumstances. Even the most difficult moments eventually give way to hope and renewal, often leaving behind valuable lessons and inner strength. Tough times, while painful, come with both disadvantages and hidden advantages. On one hand, they bring stress, self-doubt, and setbacks that affect our mental and physical well-being. They strain relationships and delay progress making us feel like we've hit rock bottom. On the other hand, trying times can foster resilience, clarity, and a deeper understanding of ourselves....

  Your mind is one of the most powerful tools you have. It affects how you think, feel, and react to the world around you. Just like your body needs exercise and good food to stay strong, your mind also needs care and attention.  A healthy mind helps you make better decisions, handle stress, and live a happier life. One way to take care of your mind is by managing stress. Truth is, life can be challenging, and challenges can feel overwhelming at times.  Engaging in self-care activities like taking short walks, practicing relaxation techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or keeping a journal about the positive things no matter how small can improve your emotional health.  You can also do things you know help you clear your mind like surrounding yourself with positive people and talking about your feelings without being judged with those you know truly care about you will also make a big difference in maintaining a good mental health. Protecting your mental well-b...

As the new year kicks off, take this chance to hit reset and start fresh . Set goals that really matters to you—whether it's your mental health, getting healthier, strengthening that relationship with that special someone, or finally going after a dream you've been putting off. Don’t worry about being perfect; just focus on making steady progress with each step. Every day is a new opportunity to move forward. Take care of your mental health, your mind and emotions, just like you would your face, lol. Try things that truly makes you happy, or just take a moment to breathe and reflect. Spend time with people who make you feel good and put energy into relationships that brings you true happiness . This year, aim for balance—work on your goals, but don’t forget to rest and recharge . Look for ways to give back and make a difference in the world around you. Even small acts of kindness—helping a neighbor, volunteering, or supporting the less privileged—can have a big impact. It make...

 Life is a complex journey filled with ups, downs, both positive and negative experiences, emotions, and changes. A helpful way to understand the journey of life is through three stages: The Breaking stage The Making stage The Showing stage These 3 stages reflects how we face challenges, grow as individuals, and share our stories with others to learn from. The Breaking Stage The first stage, The Breaking Stage, is about those tough moments in life when we encounter problems, face failures, or go through significant changes. These experiences can be painful and confusing, often leaving us feeling lost. However, they are essential for personal growth. During this phase, we might start questioning our beliefs, strength, who we are or if we can attain that goals we've set for ourselves. This stage is a time for reflection. Where we reflect on the past mistakes, learn from the mistakes and work on being a better person; It can also be a break down old ways of thinking to make space...