Life, Relationship, Heart Clinic

  I heard getting married is one of the easiest thing to do in our society today. Gone are those days when the parents of the intending couples do a lot of findings about the family their child is marrying into before approving their marriage. The aim of this investigation is to make sure their child(ren)  marry into a good family, in terms of health, character, fame, generational curse, among others.  Parents are simply playing that role to make sure their children did not marry into the wrong family. But today's singles have totally different reasons for choosing their spouse When we think about two people getting married, we'd like to think that their decision is based on true love. That they have found the person they want to grow old with, who treats them the way they deserve and who is committed into a future together. Unfortunately, in the real world many of us get married for other reasons than ones above. Though to them, they are great reasons.  Some o...

  Most couples often give up easily on their marriage due to one reason or the other, not knowing that the faults of their misunderstanding lies between them. Most times, when a marriage is in trouble, most couples see their marriage as a mistake, rather than seeing the mistakes they are making in their marriage as the challenge they should work on and overcome together.  At a point, they begin to regret getting married to their partner. Some start thinking of getting new partners; Imagining marrying their ex or fantasizing a marrriage without issues. What they don't know is that there is no perfect marriage out there. Some work towards perfecting their marriages by accepting their partner's flaws and working on the betterment of their marriage, while most give up on theirs by issuing divorce, and later getting married to someone else. Sooner or later, they often find themselves  wishing that they had remained with their first spouse because they found greater trouble ...

All ladies are beautiful, they just need rebranding I heard lots of stories from ladies on how they were dumped, just because they are not looking good enough for show offs, (i.e they don't wear latest dress/wears or latest wigs/weaves). This gives me a heart wrenching pain whenever the thought of how physical beauty is the judge of how most men treat their women. They termed it - "she is not presentable"  To the men out there Most ladies that don't wear the latest dress or latest weaves are not happy with the way they look. And I'm telling you it took them the last ounce of self esteem to walk around not wearing the latest wears or weaves. The least you can do for such lady as a man is make her feel beautiful because looking good is very expensive and not all ladies can afford it. Which is why most result to "other ways" to look good.  But then, men don't see it that way. They want an independent lady who is good for show offs and not minding what ...

Anything is possible when u choose to make it possible You should be like Wildflowers that grow in a mountain or in a field and manage to bloom even when they are not nurtured or watered.  Wildflower is still a flower and would be cherished when seen.  Whether you bloom early or late, you are still a flower.  You will have many days of frustration in your life; however, don't ever think of giving up, because you did not come this far just to come this far. Remember that all turbulent time is a visitor and like visitors, they will pass by.  Even if you get stepped on along the way, LIKE A WILDFLOWER, YOU WILL BLOOM AGAIN Wildflowers survive amongst all types of weeds, you will survive too.  Wildflowers bloom anywhere they find themselves, you will bloom too.  No matter how far or how long it seems it is taking, don't give up because your time to bloom is almost here.  You are a WILDFLOWER, you will survive it all. Don't give up!  - Maiden wura.

When a lady see how happy her once upon a time suitor is in his marriage, she will be like ‘’I wish I said yes when he asked me out then… My marriage would have been a fairytale… And they lived happily ever after’’ When a man see how happily married a lady he once ditched is, he will be like ‘’I wish I took her serious and never let her go then… see how happy she is.’’ Her husband is indeed fortunate to have her But the truth is, your marriage or relationship is what you make it to be. You need to stop comparing your spouse or marriage to others. Please don’t get caught in comparison trap because you don’t know what they are going through. You can only see what they chose to show you. Note: every marriage is unique. The fact that the grass looks greener on the other side doesn’t mean you need to move to the other side. It means you have to nurture and water your own plant Truth about marriage The first year of marriage is going to be tough. You will get to see and know what you never s...

One of the secret to a successful marriage is when you marry your best friend. Your best friend is your playmate and your gist mate. Your best friend knows you in and out and will never take your love or feelings for granted. Qualities you get in your best friend that you will rarely get with dates: There is always an unconditional love, mutual feelings and understanding A friends knows your value than any other person Communication won’t flow well when you are not dating your friend because you tend to talk about anything and everything with your friend You can’t beg for attention when dating your friend When dating your best friend, you plan the future together Your best friend will understand your mood swings and will definitely work on settling any misunderstanding Do you know why people fight over sex in relationship? It’s because there is no friendship between them Build friendship before marrying anyone because when you marry someone you really know, it make...

I was sitting on the 13th floor alone Brooding about life, When a spider caught my attention. It climbed to the 13th floor and kept climbing even with the storm out there. It climbed back up every time it fell. Why does the spider climb so high? Striving to get to the top? Why is it is going that high? It probably thinks it can get a better catch up there; Or maybe it believes it can just keep going and going till it get there. Well, that’s what I chose to believe. The spider did not stop till it got to the final floor. Only a small thinker believes there is a particular height to be attained or a particular height is hard to be attained.  Never stop climbing till you get to the top. When you get to that top you have been aiming for, Aim for something greater than that top and never stop climbing Be like the spider and don’t hesitate to devour whatever challenges that may come your way Don’t give up Maiden Wura

Don’t be too quick to make decisions, ‘’GIVE IT TIME’’ When someone approaches you and tell you ‘’I can’t live without you, I love you and I can put up with your flaws’’, before you commit your heart to such person, PLEASE GIVE IT TIME because time test love and proves it When you meet someone today and you feel like marrying such person the next day, before you do, PLEASE GIVE IT TIME When you visit your Uncle, Aunt or friends during vacation and you were treated like a king or queen, don’t be carried away by the way you are being served and start thinking about relocating to their house,  GIVE IT TIME When someone joins your fellowship and is active in all group/department, please don’t rush into making him a leader, GIVE IT TIME When you enter a new environment and everybody worships the ground you step on, please don’t be carried away but GIVE IT TIME When someone comes with a business idea with unbelievable promises, before you involve your money GIVE IT TIME ...

The rich have an effect on the poor Making them wanting to apologize for their poverty And at all times, making them sacrifice future necessities Just so they could make a brief show of the wealth they believe the poor could only hope to have Most people want what they see others enjoying; It doesn’t matter how they get it. There are ways: the good and the other ways; But they only think of one way (going extra miles) You know – the other ways – the bad ones. Survival instincts comes to mind, right? Not knowing that is the path I’m avoiding Cos that path they are taking does a lot of damage than good That path destroys They condemn me because I have not done what others are doing Yet I am in this world They enjoy life to the fullest while I work my behind out Trying to make a living the rightful way I think that’s one of my crimes When I look back on my life, I see pains, mistakes and heartaches But when I look in the mirror, I see strength, lessons lear...

It is hell on earth loving someone who does not love you back; It is self destruction and a host of other emotions I can’t even give a name to. Yet, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it MY FEELINGS The more I try to forget, the more it hurts; The more I try to get over it, the more it hurts; It is as if my heart has stopped and the time seem frozen My breath gets cuts off I seem not to have the courage to speak up my mind to u So I bury it in my heart Just those three words, I can’t say it The more I try, the heavier my heart gets So in my heart, I bury it The tears keeps flowing, it is stained in my breath And engraved on my skin, The more I try to forget, the more painful it is in my heart that is frozen Time of you flows… Have you ever wished someone felt the way you do? One thing I have learned is: You can’t make anyone feel the way you would like them to; nor can you make anyone love you, just because you love them If they do, it’s wonderful ...